In my interpersonal relationships course I had to write 5 do’s and don’ts for social media and interpersonal relationships! I wanted to share them with you. I’ll separate it into 5 parts. I encourage you to check them out!
Here’s part one:
Do remember that everything you put on the internet is essentially public domain, no matter how private you think it may be.
Don’t post things you wouldn’t want the world to see.
The rational for these two things, is that many people assume, “Oh! Just my friends will see…” or “Nobody really reads my blog, and it’s an expression of what I believe, so I shouldn’t worry too much.” Because these things aren’t true. Everything on the Internet is available for anyone to see with enough work. Co-Workers you trust completely, may decide to share with the boss what you posted in an off-hand remark to your boss. When people like or comment a status on Facebook, it goes on their wall sometimes, and individuals you don’t know can see them. Here’s a long example:
I worked for a company from 2006-2008. We got a major witch as a manager who hated me, she would belittle me in front of customers, write me up for things I hadn’t done, assuming I had just gotten away with it previously, and purposely sabotaged me on a regular basis. I had a blog to which I would post how I felt about things; I used it like an online diary for lack of a better term.
I had recently read the book Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections of Sexuality and Spirituality by Rob Bell. (Great book if you’re interested in how relationships we have here on Earth, show our view of God, how God views us, and most importantly, the language of Marriage between God and Man throughout the scriptures.) In it, he was talking about Ephesians 5 (the roles of men and women) and he talked about what true leadership was. Comparing Christ and his leadership of the church with what the world looks at leadership. During that segment he talked about how insecure leaders felt the need to exert their authority over people, belittle them, tear their subordinates down to lift themselves up amongst other things. I included that in a blog and agreed. (No where on this blog had I mentioned her by name, and I hadn’t mentioned since 2006 that I had worked at the company, the year now was 2008.) I didn’t mentioned specifics but I did express how that was true and how I hated working under someone like that, and how things should be managed.
Unbeknownst to me, my manager was Google searching my name and found my blog. She proceeded to print that and post it up on the employee bulletin board, including other blog posts of a personal nature and when I took them down one day after work, she reprinted them and re put them up and threatened to fire me if I touched it again.
While this may be an extreme case, the fact of the matter is, we must be prepared for things privately to be done publicly.